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QUESTION OF THE MONTH

Dear Erin,

My 4 year old and 7 year old children won't listen to me.  I tell them to do something and they don't do it.  I tell them to stop doing something and they keep doing it no matter how many times I tell them to stop.  What can I do to make them listen?  I don't like hearing myself yell at them all the time.

- Lost my voice

Dear Lost,

This problem is easily solved, so don't fret.  It won't even take a lot of work on your part, just

stick-to-itive-ness.


First of all, there is no need to yell  They hear you no matter what level your voice is.  Raising your voice just gets your blood pressure up and is not at all effective in getting them to listen in the long run.

Tell them to do whatever it is you want them to do in a normal voice, down at their level, so you are sure they have heard you.  If they don't listen, immediately tell them they have lost a privilege.  (Can't watch favorite tv program, no video game time, no dessert, whatever you know will mean something.)  There is no warning for the consequence, just immediate statement of it after they have not listened. 

They will, of course, protest, beg, plead, etc.  But you MUST stick to your statement or your problem will get worse.  Your children MUST see you are sure of your decision and will not budge.

When they don't listen when you tell them to stop, it has been my experience that at time-out, done well, is very effective. 

Let's say your 4 year old is swinging a toy around her head, not caring who might get hit and you tell her to stop.  Let me guess... she looks at you and keeps doing it, right?  At this point, you can say "1" wait a moment, "2" wait a moment, and "3- time-out."  The time out should be in a corner, removed from the immediate vicinity of the rest of the group, or at least against a wall, also removed from the group. 

This sort of time-out, which should last at least a few minutes, no screaming or crying allowed, is very effective.  I think you will see results.  You can even do it without the 1-2-3 warning.

The main thing to remember, no matter what technique you use, is you MUST BE CONSISTENT.  Do not waver.


Try this for a few weeks and I think you will see good results.

 

-Erin

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Do you use cloth diapers?  If so, why, if not, why not?

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Cloth diapers are easier to use than ever before.  Here's why you should choose them... 


Your baby's comfort.

Would you like to wear stiff paper (and/or plastic) underwear 24 hours a day?  My kids have super sensitive  skin that gets red from irritation after wearing a disposable diaper for only a sort period.  After being in cloth for only a day, the redness is gone.  My two older sons had diaper rash regularly and it was often severe, while my third son, who was cloth diapered, almost never had a rash  and when he did, it was always related to another illness.

Leaks.

Disposable diapers have endless blowouts and leaks out the sides, while cloth diapers immediately absorb nearly all moisture so they rarely leak when used properly with good fit, even at night!

The environment.

Leave a cleaner world behind for your children and your grandchildren. Disposables leave behind an average of 2.7 tons of non-biodegradable waste (not to mention the waste produced by manufacturing them alone) per child. Compare that to a few dozen cotton diapers, and the responsible choice also becomes clear.  The laundry energy and soap used are minimal.  Each load of diapers requires only about a quarter of the amount of detergent used in a regular load of laundry.

Save money.

With disposables, some estimate you spend an average of more than $2000 per child. Cloth comes to only an average of $150-$350 per child (with the added but minimal cost of electricity and water to launder them). What a great excuse to start a college fund for your baby now, and you can rest assure that your money is being well-spent and not going to "waste" in a land-fill!

 

Potty training is easier, and happens earlier.

It's a little-known fact that cloth diaper children potty train earlier, and with less effort on their parents' part. This phenomenon has mostly to do with the fact that when a cloth diaper is wet, they can feel the sensation. Chemical laden disposables can feel so dry, your baby never gets a chance to understand what their body is doing.

Cotton diapers are chemical free.

Polyacrylate gel in diapers is a relatively new phenomenon, and no one really knows what the long term effects are. It also leaches moisture from your babies skin. Additionally, disposables are full of dioxins. While non-organic cotton cloth diapers can also have dioxins, they typically are washed out within the first few pre-washes (before your baby will ever wear them), however one-use-only disposables are never rid of them. The dioxin and bleach in disposables are part of what contributes to toxic shock syndrome.  Some studies have shown that adults who wore disposable diapers as babies now have fertility problems from the leaching chemicals. 

Additionally, and perhaps the most compelling reason to use cloth diapers, is that disposable diapers containing polyacrylate gel are suspected of exacerbating, and even causing, asthma.

Convenience.

Convenience? Yes, convenience! You'll never have to worry about making another late-night trip to your grocery store for a package of disposable diapers.. You'll never have to hold your nose while emptying and re-bagging one of those complicated "Diaper Genie®" contraptions.. And you'll have approximately two bags less of garbage to haul to the curb every week!  Plus, the poop smell is not as strong when it doesn't react with chemicals in disposables.

Being a leader is much more fun than being a follower.

Stand out from the crowd and show you care to give your baby the very best, including the way you diaper. It's so much more fun to share the joy of cloth diapering with other mothers (who are usually very curious!), than to waste time clipping the latest coupons for the cheapest disposable paper diaper.